Religion vs. Spirituality

I'm not a particularly religious person, I'm not religious at all actually. And I don't want to jump on the "spiritual" bandwagon but that definitely is the best way to describe it. I feel like I went shopping for spirituality and took a little something from every religion. I believe in karma and dharma and yin-yang and the golden rule and the ten commandments and that there is a Higher Power up there... but that's where I stop. 


The reason I bring this up is because I had a long talk with my suitemate about religion the other day. She's Muslim, but her mother was Catholic and supposed to convert when they married, but never really did... My suitemate was confused as to what religion she was because she doesn't agree with everything Islam stands for, and after 9/11 she was scared to say she was Muslim. Regardless we had a long talk about how we're both more spiritual and would rather not label ourselves a certain religion. 


I also started thinking about how much I liked Taoism when I was learning about it. The circular pattern of life was just the most positive outlook I could have imagined. That after a really bad time you will come into a really good time in your life. And that really pleased me. But right now, right this second, "I am completely, and perfectly, and incandescently happy". To the point that I am terrified of what's going to come along and screw this up. I am so afraid of losing this feeling..I don't know what to do that will comfort me. 

Perspectives

So my roommate was hooking up with this guy, and then he told her there was no future so she got over it and started hooking up with his best friend (the next day). Which I mean, it's more complicated and somewhat justifiable but still not a good situation to find oneself in. Anyway the first guy confronts me about the situation and asks where she is and gives me his take on things. He said something along the lines of:

She always contacted me first; she always text me to go places. I deducted from that that she wanted a relationship, and I didn't want to lead her on, so I told her up front that I wasn't interested past the occasional weekend hook up. 

I started thinking about his newfound revelation, that maybe guys overanalyze just as much as girls do. My problem is that I like his roommate. I don't know if I'm ready for a relationship or anything, given my track record. But I could definitely see this thing going somewhere. But he's really shy. So I have to text him a lot of the time, and when we hang out he gets more comfortable and outgoing and we have a lot of fun. But am I not supposed to contact him? Is his roommate going to over analyze this situation and tell him to run? 


When it comes to shamelessly flirting with no intention of getting serious, is it okay to take charge?